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What to Do When You Are At a Crossroad in Life

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Susan Vernicek
Written by Susan Vernicek

I was at a crossroad about 7 years ago where I bawled my eyes out. I was alone in my childhood bedroom for about 30 minutes with this horrible feeling in my gut.

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The inevitable moment when you’re at a crossroad—what does it mean and what do you do? Are you a woman who observes every crossroad along your journey as symbolic?


To be frank, I’ve had many moments where I’m facing the 4-way sign and haven’t got a clue to what it means or what to do. I’ve made oh-so many dangerous and unclear turns and I’ve made very wise turns. I say dangerous because I don’t believe in a wrong turn. I believe in our choices and that they pave the road of our journeys.

I was at a crossroad about 7 years ago where I bawled my eyes out. I was alone in my childhood bedroom for about 30 minutes with this horrible feeling in my gut. I felt failure, fear, loneliness, not good enough, I thought to myself what went wrong and questioned every miniscule thing about me and the circumstance I was faced with. It was all moving in my head at lightning speed while the room seemed as if it was spinning. Now that I think about it, almost like my uncool drunk days back in college. I digress.

This moment was probably just as bad as when I found out my high school love cheated on me and I had to decide to forgive or move on—such a horrible feeling and I’ll never forget it. I also bawled my eyes out at the dinner table.

Pushing through all the crossroad clouds, there is a shining sun.

Maybe you are at a crossroad—a career change, a divorce, a business divorce, loss of a friend, conflict with some one, a breakup, a choice to move, or needing to say no to a client. You can find the shining sun through the clouds by paying attention to the signs, the pros and the cons.

Believe me when I say that being at a crossroad is a good thing.

It means belief is tugging at your heart.
It means trust is whispering in your ear.
It means growth is knocking on your door.

Evaluate all possible options so you can visualize the potential results or better yet, visualize what you WANT to see and WANT to happen.

My Crossroad Decision

That moment I cried alone in my room 7 years ago, I found myself faced with the decision on continuing Identity Magazine alone. I had just received an email that my partner decided to go in another direction than the magazine.

I dug to reflect on all that I succeeded during our venture as a team. I evaluated all that I had accomplished. After reflection for a few moments, I gained a burst of confidence and heard my inner voice say “Shit, just go for it. You have nothing to lose”.

It was right. At the time I was single, living rent-free, had a 9-5 job, and opportunity was all around me. I made a choice at that very moment to never give up on Identity Magazine no matter how challenging it was going to be.

Fast Forward

The past 10 years have been a crazy rollercoaster that I don’t ever want to get off. I not only run the online magazine, I am an Author, a Paid Speaker, and I host signature workshops and conferences.

If you’ve been following me you know that I’m celebrating 10 years of entrepreneurship and have created a huge celebration—Identity LIVE at Sea 2016. It’s our 3rd conference + celebration + cruise to Bermuda!

I took time to reflect on the past 10 years of my entrepreneurial journey and gave each year a theme. This month it’s all about crossroads and I invite you to read the first two themes: “Let’s Talk Vision” and “Holy Sh*t We’re Doing It”.

I encourage you to welcome any crossroad moment into your life because there’s an exciting journey around the corner waiting just for you!

Identity Magazine is all about empowering women to get all A’s in the game of life – Accept. Appreciate. Achieve.™ Every contributor and expert answer the Identity 5 questions in keeping with our theme. Their answers can be random and in the moment or they can be aligned with the above article. As a team, we hope to inspire and motivate ourselves and inspire you to get all A’s.

1. What have you accepted within your life, physically and/or mentally? What are you still working on accepting?

I’ve accepted that celebrating isn’t always a big shindig and that I needed to find various ways to celebrate me daily.  Sometimes that’s working out, sometimes it’s indulging, and every 10 years it’s a big celebration cruise!

2. What have you learn to appreciate about yourself and/or within your life, physically and mentally? What are you still working on to appreciate?

I appreciate my husband for such support on this HUGE leap in launching such a big vision and I appreciate my drive and ambitiousness. 

3. What is one of your most rewarding achievements in life? What makes YOU most proud? What goals and dreams do you still have?

Most recent rewarding is putting this cruise out there having faith and hope that my vision will come to life—100 women celebrating themselves and other women.  My goal is work my butt off to fill the rooms onboard!

4. We all have imperfections, so we think. The truth—we are all perfectly imperfect. What are your not-so-perfect ways? What imperfections and quirks create who you are—your Identity?

I launched this celebration without having it perfectly planned. I hired an event planner, found a cruise travel expert and jumped right it. Let’s celebrate!

5. “I Love My…” is an outlet for you to express and appreciate all the positive traits that make you…well… YOU! Sharing what you love about yourself will make you smile, feel empowered, and uplift your spirit and soul. (we assure you!) Identity challenges you to complete the phrase “I Love My…?”

I love my determination to not give up.

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About the author

Susan Vernicek

Susan Vernicek

Facts about Susan Vernicek:
• She’s happily married and a mother of twins.

• She’s tried almost every fad diet back in her quick-fix days, admits at age 34 it’s a struggle to work hard on overall balance and is focused on not giving into the unhealthy fads we see daily.

• She’s all natural with natural blonde hair, uneven breasts, a bigger nose, and full of curves that she learns to appreciate more and more each day.

• She had a career where part of her job was staring at herself 40 hours a week manipulating her very own face as well as others.

• She’s the youngest of 7, ranging from 30-50+, an Aunt, Great Aunt and even younger than some of her nieces and nephews!

• She’s traveled and seen over 8 countries and spent a summer in London finding her passion and embracing life.

• She created S&J Identity, Inc. AKA Identity Magazine, having no business background and at the age of 25.