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I Apologize

All About Acceptance, Appreciation, and Achieving
Susan Vernicek
Written by Susan Vernicek

Sometimes, you just need to apologize.

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Sometimes, you just need to apologize.


It’s been 9 months raising twins and continuing to build the Identity Empire.

It’s time.

I have to apologize because this past weekend was the first, maybe the second time I was able to answer hundreds, seriously close to a thousand emails. Yes, I still manage most emails, although I just may need to change that whether I like it or not.

I want to apologize because it’s rude to not respond within a timely manner. At the same time, I don’ t always receive the emails—they may hit my spam folder.

Heck, while I’m at it…

I apologize because I receive tons of positive messages about how great it is to see Identity doing so well while balancing being a new mom. I’m so utterly grateful for the supporting comments. While I am balancing it all in some chaotic way, I want to be clear that my balanced life, your balanced life, and the girl sitting next to you balanced life is not and will never be the same. I apologize if you think I have it all—I don’t, but I do in my world. Just like you have it all in your world. If you haven’t seen that yet, I challenge you to open your eyes a bit wider.

I apologize on behalf of your friends and colleagues who don’t share all the bullshit and obstacles—the naked truth. If we don’t share our experiences and stories, then where is the inspiration and support system? Those that don’t have a voice may need your story or to read your words. If we have the strength to be a voice on some platform, let’s do it!

I apologize for sharing too many photos of my twins on Facebook. I try to mix it up with a little inspiration, business, and life—but babies are just too darn cute that they win for the posting choice.

I apologize that Identity Magazine’s articles are not perfect, but that is the purpose. We have many voices on Identity and the purpose is to keep their voice and their words in tact. Together we are perfectly imperfect through our writing and our stories.

I apologize because maybe you need an apology and haven’t received it yet.

Don’t be afraid to apologize.

According to Psychology Today, below are some benefits to apologizing:

• An apology helps us to move past our anger and prevents us from being stuck in the past.
• Apologizing opens the door to forgiveness by allowing us to have empathy for the wrongdoer.
• An apology has the power to humble even the most arrogant. When we develop the courage to admit we are wrong and work past our resistance to apologizing, we develop a deep sense of self-respect.
• Apologizing helps us remain emotionally connected to our friends and loved ones. Knowing we have wronged someone may cause us to distance ourselves from the person, but once we have apologized we feel freer to be vulnerable and intimate.

I make a conscious effort to show my vulnerable moments when the timing is right. My mission, both personally and professionally, is to work hard to Get All A’s in the Game of Life by accepting, appreciating, and achieving – AND apologizing when appropriate. I encourage you to do the same.

Identity Magazine is all about empowering women to get all A’s in the game of life – Accept. Appreciate. Achieve.™ Every contributor and expert answer the Identity 5 questions in keeping with our theme. Their answers can be random and in the moment or they can be aligned with the above article. As a team, we hope to inspire and motivate ourselves and inspire you to get all A’s.

What have you accepted within your life, physically and/or mentally? What are you still working on accepting?

I accept that I am wrong at times and I’m okay with that. I have grown in the past years where apologizing is much easier than it used to be.  It’s feels refreshing when you know you need to apologize for something, and do it.  My shoulders always feel lighter and I always come out stronger.  

What have you learn to appreciate about yourself and/or within your life, physically and mentally? What are you still working on to appreciate?

I appreciate of of you who are part of my life and accept my apologizes,  flaws and all.  

What is one of your most rewarding achievements in life? What makes YOU most proud? What goals and dreams do you still have?

At this moment I am going to answer “answering all of the hundreds and hundreds of emails, personally.” 

We all have imperfections, so we think. The truth—we are all perfectly imperfect. What are your not-so-perfect ways? What imperfections and quirks create who you are—your Identity?

I sometimes snort when I laugh.

“I Love My…” is an outlet for you to express and appreciate all the positive traits that make you…well… YOU! Sharing what you love about yourself will make you smile, feel empowered, and uplift your spirit and soul. (we assure you!) Identity challenges you to complete the phrase “I Love My…?”

I love my sense of humor and I love when I am able to have the strength to apologize when needed.

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About the author

Susan Vernicek

Susan Vernicek

Facts about Susan Vernicek:
• She’s happily married and a mother of twins.

• She’s tried almost every fad diet back in her quick-fix days, admits at age 34 it’s a struggle to work hard on overall balance and is focused on not giving into the unhealthy fads we see daily.

• She’s all natural with natural blonde hair, uneven breasts, a bigger nose, and full of curves that she learns to appreciate more and more each day.

• She had a career where part of her job was staring at herself 40 hours a week manipulating her very own face as well as others.

• She’s the youngest of 7, ranging from 30-50+, an Aunt, Great Aunt and even younger than some of her nieces and nephews!

• She’s traveled and seen over 8 countries and spent a summer in London finding her passion and embracing life.

• She created S&J Identity, Inc. AKA Identity Magazine, having no business background and at the age of 25.

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