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Four Steps to HANGer Management

HANGer photo of wall
Jodi Topitz
Written by Jodi Topitz

While my divorce was underway and my house was on the market I had only 2 weeks to leave the place I had lived in for the past 19 years.

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While my divorce was underway and my house was on the market I had only 2 weeks to leave the place I had lived in for the past 19 years.


As if moving OUT wasn’t hideous enough, I realized that moving IN was equally challenging. Settling into a new place required addressing walls, floors and ceilings. I soon realized that one of the most important surfaces to address first were my walls.

Walls are the first thing people notice because your eyes have a natural line of vision which takes you directly to what’s in front of you. You don’t walk into a room and look down at the floors or up at the ceiling. You look at the walls first.  They can create the feeling you get from a big, warm hug of happiness if done correctly.

Here are the Four Essential Steps to BIG transformation in your home and your state of mind:

  1. Start by picking a fabulous color that stirs your soul. How do you do that? Take something you like. Perhaps a favorite scarf, piece of clothing or picture that you love. Whatever toots your horn. Don’t be afraid of what it will look like. This is just the beginning of the process. People are afraid to play with color and tend to go toward the neutral beige or off white. Color evokes feeling and you want it to make you feel secure, peaceful and happy. When you work with a color stylist like me, I can help you find your empowerment color.
  2. Create the illusion of a window, which makes a room seem bigger, by HANGing a mirror. Yes, it’s as easy as that. Of course, not just any mirror. You must consider shape, frame and placement. Mirrors give the suggestion of a window without the high cost, mess or hassle of getting a permit and busting through a wall. Mirrors can also reflect the outside in if placed opposite a real window. Reflecting a nice view from your actual window lifts the spirits and connects us to something visually pleasing. It also brings in more natural light, which is a mood enhancer, especially during the winter months.
  3. Photographs uplift you and create a storyboard of you life to look at and inspire you. Whether you hang photos of your children, family members, places you’ve been or, better yet, places you’d like to go in the future, photos will remind you of all that you have to be grateful for. Your wall holds your past, present and future ~ it’s your vision board.
  4. HANGing pieces of your favorite art will boost your state of mind and create a space that says you are “home.” Our possessions evoke an emotion either a positive or negative one. By choosing things that uplift your spirit you instantly create an environment of positivity. Surrounding yourself with beauty will lift you up; mind, body and spirit.

Michele’s Story

Several years after my client’s divorce she was ready for a “space lift.” Her home did not reflect her personal style or vision. It evolved into a cluttered hodge podge of photographs with mismatched frames and way too many blank expressionless walls. She had a lot of beautiful paintings that were stored in her attic that came from her happy childhood days. All she needed was a little inspiration from me.

We matched frames and artfully placed those heirloom paintings tastefully throughout her house. By creating a wall of photos and art we gave it the importance and respect it deserves. Having mismatched frames on her mantel, side tables, and coffee table added to the feeling of clutter and chaos. When we start to remove the clutter from our home something amazing happens. The clutter in our mind starts to clear as well. HANGing her favorite items on her walls freed up space and gave them a gallery like status.

This was the perfect way to surround her with memories that made her smile. Lastly, we purchased a large mirror and hung it directly across from her living room window. Three things were achieved by doing this: 1) It reflected the serenity of nature outside her home and thus created a more fluid and organic space. 2) It brought in more natural light. 3) It created the illusion of a larger space.

HANGer Management, creating a wall of visual beauty, is one of the secrets to creating a warm and personalized space. Now the only thing left for Michele to do is to HANG out in her new homey space.

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About the author

Jodi Topitz

Jodi Topitz

Jodi Topitz, founder of we2me® has over 30 years of experience as a professional artist, color
consultant, fashion designer and interior stylist. Jodi's career began as a fashion illustrator and jewelry designer in Manhattan. Since 1994, Jodi has provided her expert interior styling and all surface artistry to residential and

commercial spaces, specializing in color direction, furniture placement, room accessorizing, customized murals, faux finishes, and mosaic art. Jodi has appeared on television and radio and has provided numerous clients with ways to achieve happiness in their home surroundings. Over the course of these years, Jodi observed that whether moving to a new home, or reclaiming the space you are in, was extremely stressful, especially for women & men in transition (DIVORCE, loss of a spouse, retirement, empty nest or relocation). As someone who has personally experienced "we to me," Jodi created this program to offer advice and resources for others who are transitioning to "me." Learn more about we2me® as Jodi discusses the concept at "Coffee with Sabra" Audio Broadcast: Divorce Decor: get your MOJO back through Color & Design

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