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Tell Your Story! It Can Save Lives – Including Yours!

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Faith Saunders
Written by Faith Saunders

Like me, many people isolate themselves. We are in silos, living somewhat miserable lives, not realizing that other people have similar stories and together we can start the healing process.

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I’m sure you have many experiences that haven’t been shared because of fear of judgement, right? I bet you that every single human being out there has had a story or secret that they kept inside.  Don’t allow shame or fear into your world, tell your story because you could save a life—especially the one you’re living.


“There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you.” 
– Maya Angelou

Wow! Have you read something that just stopped you in your tracks? Well, this is what happened when I came across the above quote by Maya Angelou.  I said ‘us’. The reason being I know what this pain feels like personally.  Even sadder, many  people  have been in  this place so long that it has become a normal state of being that not only impacts them but, their loved ones and other  people they encounter. What do I mean?

 When we are in emotional agony it impacts our life in many ways. The  following are just a few:

Personal Impact

  • Unexplained ache and pains
  • Agitation and irritability
  • Anxiety
  • Social isolation 
  • Substance use including drinking**
  • Thinking often about death or wishing to be dead
  • Lost of interest in activities the you usually enjoy
  • Feeling of hopelessness
  • Indecisiveness 
  • Self blame 

** Drinking is something to pay special attention to because it is socially accepted and can easily become a habit –  a way to numb our pain that can get out of control.

Impact on Others

  • We treat others disrespectfully, especially people we love.
  • We say hurtful things 
  • We are not authentic in our interactions. Result, people don’t really get to know us.  

Why Do We Bury Our Story?

 The #1 culprit – SHAME – Brene Brown defines shame as: “The intensely painful feeling or experience of believing that we are flawed and therefore unworthy of love and belonging – something we’ve experienced, done, or failed to do makes us unworthy of connection.

In her book, The Gift of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to be and Embrace Who You Are, Brene goes on to say that our “shame tapes and gremlins keep us feeling afraid and small.” For majority of people, the thing(s) that we are ashamed of was done to us and is not due to anything that we have done.

Benefits of Owning Our Story (as per Brene):

  • “Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it.”
  • Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.”

These are 2 very powerful statements!

What I have found is that the more I own my story and share it, the lighter I feel. In addition, other people’s story helps me to have hope. This is empowering by itself. However, for a long time, I kept my story to myself, feeling alone. Like me, many people isolate themselves. We are in silos, living somewhat miserable lives, not realizing that other people have similar stories and together we can start the healing process.

Baby Steps to Take Towards Owning Your Story

  1. Face it and tell yourself the truth – To numb the pain, we sometimes tell ourselves lies or edit our story.
  2. Forgive – First it is imperative that you stop being angry and blaming yourself and others! In the long run, you’re hurting yourself the most because you are losing out on the gift of life.
  3. Get Professional Help – Sometime we cannot heal on our own. I have found that spending time with someone who can help me to be objective and challenges by dysfunctional beliefs was worth it. The important thing is that one has to be willing to do the work and believe me, it can be hard work BUT it is worth it!

Until next time…  THINK POSITIVELY!

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About the author

Faith Saunders

Faith Saunders

Faith has a Master’s Degree in Psychiatric Rehabilitation from UMDNJ and have over 18 years experience working in various capacities – training, coaching, project development, etc. – with many groups, including women in recovery, teenage mothers, youths and adults with emotional challenges.

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