Time management is a constant struggle in our extremely busy lives, but we are all given the same about of time per day. Why is it that some can manage their time better than others? Please welcome Guest Author Faith Saunders with her tips and challenges below.
I cringe every time I hear myself utter these words, “I don’t have enough time.” The good thing is that the frequency that I use them is far and few between and I don’t use them as a crutch anymore.
The truth is that we all have enough time to do the things that are important to us. I see it in my own life and others. Case in point, there have been several occasions where I would have had a full schedule during the week, initially in my mind, I have no wiggle room to do anything else. However, something that I deem important presents itself and I find time to squeeze it in.
There is one thing no one – NO ONE – can say that they there is discrimination about; that is TIME. We all are given 24 hours each day. No matter where you live, as soon as midnight strikes, you are given another 24 hours. So why is it that some people accomplish so much and others (sadly, the majority) say that they do not have enough time to dedicate to what they want to do – connect with love ones and friend, exercise, you name it. There could be a number of reasons for this but ‘time’ isn’t necessarily the culprit. I alluded to one reason earlier – although we say and sometimes believe that certain people/things are important to us, in the bigger scheme of life, other things take priority.
What is important, especially this time of year as we reflect on the past year and look forward to the New Year, is to stay true to what is really important to YOU in your life! In my practice, as a life coach and trainer (www.discoveranewfuture.com) I meet so many women who say that I keep on doing for others but I don’t have time to do for myself. I am going to challenge you – is that really true? Our doing for others is satisfying a need, whether it is for connection, love, feeling significant or something else, only you can answer that question. It is okay to take time for you. Many women and I can relate because I was guilty of this when I was younger, feel guilty when they take time out for themselves.
When was the last time that you went on a plane? Before take-off, the flight attendant tells each adult passenger what to do in case there is an emergency. The message never changes, if there is a drop in oxygen on the plane, the air mask will fall. When this happens, put it on your face first. The reason for that is that you must be able to breathe so you can take care of others. The same applies here. You have to take time out for yourself because you won’t be able to give the best you to others.
I have a question for you, “Do you have a minute?” I am imagining the look on your face as you read this :-).
I am about to give you a tip that can change your life if you choose to use it. You can begin to live the life that YOU want and so deserve if YOU dedicate 1 minute each day toward your goal. It is all about consistency. Suppose one of your goals is to write a book. If you commit to writing 1 minute per day – you may be able to write your book in a year or even 6 months. This beats not doing it at all. One of my favorite sayings is, “Small successes build on each other.”
CHALLENGE: Identify a goal that you have been putting off. Try working on it 1 minute each day. Do this for 30 days and then come back to this blog and tell us how it went.
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What have you accepted in your life that took time, physically or mentally?
The one thing that I have accepted in my life is that I do have a voice. Where I grew up, it was our cultural belief that children were seen but not heard. I am glad to say that over time, this belief has changed somewhat but for a long time, even as an adult I felt that there was so much that I wanted to say but the old childhood tapes were still playing loud and clear.
It took a lot of personal work to silent the tapes and realized that I do have a lot to say that is of value to others. Today, I use my voice to help other women claim their voice. I am a trainer, life coach and writer. To learn more, visit www.discoveranewfuture.com
What do you appreciate about yourself and within your life?
I appreciate that I have been blessed with many gifts which I use to help others – especially women. However, one major lesson I have learned, especially in the past few years, is that in order to be able to do the work, I had to do my work so that I show up as the best version of me.
What is one of your most rewarding achievements in life? What goals do you still have?
I once read somewhere that we choose our parents. If this is true, I am greatly blessed to have been chosen by my children – Daniel and Ashley, to be their parent. I am very proud of them, mainly because of who they are as individuals – their character. Being a single parent was not easy but I would do it again in a heartbeat!
As per my goals – now that I am an empty nester, I am focusing on living life on my terms. My goal is to expand my practice so that I can reach more women. Starting January 2014, I will be hosting a local TV program on Princeton TV called Discover a New Future with Faith Saunders: Empowering Women to be the Best Version of Themselves. The program will:
• Bring awareness to everyday challenges that women face and empower them to make positive choices that will create new possibilities so that they can live authentic and fulfilled lives
• Support women by sharing tools, concepts and resources that they can use on their journey
What is your not-so-perfect way? What imperfections and quirks create your Identity?
Procrastination and trying to do too many things in a short period of time! Result, stress! Although, I often say that I produce some of my best work when I am under pressure, the stress that it imposes is not worth it. Along the same vein, I am also guilty of packing a lot into my schedule. In a sense, one could say that I am trying to get the most out of my minute but again, it’s very stressful.
My mind is constantly coming up with new ideas. I will be talking about one thing and in the conversation, there pops up another idea. This frustrates people sometimes because I am off on another tangent and they are left wondering what did I miss? LOL!
How would you complete the phrase “I Love My…?”
“I love myself.” This was not always true. Shame can work a number on ones’ psyche. Today, I can look in the mirror and genuinely smile because I finally accept that I am perfect the way I am. I have let go of a lot of who I think I should be and have embraced more of who I am – good, bad and indifferent and it feels good. Of course, this work is ongoing but I am love where I am on my journey.
Faith Saunders, is a trainer and life coach committed to help women to be the best version of themselves so they can live authentic and fulfilling lives! Learn more about Faith by visiting her website: www.discoveranewfuture.com.