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Saying Goodbye

Susan Vernicek
Written by Susan Vernicek

I always thought I didn’t have compassion for pets. I had pets all growing up and I would never hurt an animal, but I never had that “best friend” feeling. I played with them, walked them, took care of them, but never felt that deep, deep, love and connection. Until, I had to say goodbye to Rambo.

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Saying goodbye to a pet isn’t any easier than saying goodbye to a human being. We may not always see that connection until it’s too late. Susan shares a bit of her experience as she says goodbye to her pet for the first time.

By Susan Vernicek, Founder of Identity Magazine

Last week my fiancé and I had to put Rambo, our English Bulldog to sleep and boy, what an identity he had. He has played a huge role in our relationship and taught us many lessons. At 32 years old, this was the first time I’ve experienced a loss of a pet.

If you’ve been a fan of Identity Magazine, you’ve heard a few stories here and there about Rambo. He was a unique dog with a unique identity and it was a love-annoying relationship.  He definitely challenged my patience, and me as a whole, which was a great thing.


I always thought I didn’t have compassion for pets. I had pets all growing up and I would never hurt an animal, but I never had that “best friend” feeling.  I played with them, walked them, took care of them, but never felt that deep, deep, love and connection.  Until, I had to say goodbye to Rambo.

When I saw him that morning all I wanted to do was to comfort him, clean him up and get him wrapped in a warm blanket.  I spoke to him, kissed him and kept him company until Rob took had to take him. I was hit with a wave of emotions that morning and spent the day reflecting and worrying about him and where he was going. Doggy Heaven?

What I do know, is that he is in a better place and no longer suffering. I want to thank him for challenging my identity as a whole. Rob and I have become stronger because of Rambo, and I thank and love him for that. R.I.P. Rambo.

If you have a pet, take some time today to reflect that greatness that he/she adds to your identity.

Identity Magazine is all about empowering women to get all A’s in the game of life – Accept. Appreciate. Achieve.™ Every contributor and expert answer the Identity 5 questions in keeping with our theme. As a team, we hope to inspire and motivate ourselves and inspire you to get all A’s.

What have you accepted in your life that took time, physically or mentally?

I have to learn to accept that Rambo played an important role in my life for the last four and half years. I accept that I didn’t fully appreciate him, until it was too late. I do accept the next challenge as we look for two dogs to rescue in the near future and will pay more attention to them as whole, our relationship and the unconditional love they bring.


What do you appreciate about yourself and within your life?

I appreciate the opportunity to experience these emotions and thoughts because it makes me a stronger woman.

What is one of your most rewarding achievements in life? What goals do you still have?

I am extremely proud to have shared these thoughts out loud because I had fear that those reading would judge me for not being a pet lover.  I am proud that I rediscovered my compassion for pets and took the time to reflect. I was aware and took control of my emotions.

What is your not-so-perfect way? What imperfections and quirks create your Identity?

I’m not perfect, especially when it comes to patience, but it’s something that I can and will work on. Being impatient is part of who I am and has played a huge role in my success because I don’t’ sit around and wait. I’m on the go, get things done and move, move, move.

How would you complete the phrase “I Love My…?”

I love my ability to write and share my experience. I love my Rambo for loving me unconditionally.

Thank you for listening. xo

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About the author

Susan Vernicek

Susan Vernicek

Facts about Susan Vernicek:
• She’s happily married and a mother of 3.5 year old twins.

• She’s tried almost every fad diet back in her quick-fix days, admits at age 36 it’s a struggle to work hard on overall balance and is focused on not giving into the unhealthy fads we see daily.

• She’s all natural with natural blonde hair, uneven breasts, a bigger nose, and full of curves that she learns to appreciate more and more each day.

• She had a career where part of her job was staring at herself 40 hours a week manipulating her very own face as well as others.

• She’s the youngest of 7, ranging from 36-55+, an Aunt, Great Aunt and even younger than some of her nieces and nephews!

• She’s traveled and seen over 8 countries and spent a summer in London finding her passion and embracing life.

• She created S&J Identity, Inc. AKA, having no business background and at the age of 25.

•She's a certified Holistic Health Coach and Diamond BeachBody Coach

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