For one woman, a divorce and relocation with her children sparked a new found acceptance of her life. Despite the obstacles she had to overcome with depression, a lack of support, and a nonexistent income, she pushed to develop her very own business which grew to be more than she could have ever expected. Read her story of how she found her own identity and is now helping others find theirs, as well.
By Nancy Butler
At the age of 31, my entire life changed while in the process of a divorce. My partner and I both worked for the same company and we agreed I would leave the company. Having never been on my own a day in my life, I took my children and moved 70 miles away with no alimony, child support, job or other source of income. At the new location I had no friends or financial support. I was scared and depressed and didn’t know what I would do.
I finally accepted the fact that, because I had children to take care of, I didn’t have the right to the luxury of being depressed or ending my life. My children needed me. Having two daughters, I felt it was important that they ‘see what a woman can do’ and that I needed to ‘step up to the plate’ and do the right thing.
So, with no other source of income, I opted for my own business, thinking it would give me the flexibility to be home with my children when needed. I knew nothing about saving, investing or financial planning. I told myself that even if the business didn’t work out, the knowledge and experience I would gain would be worth it since what I would learn about managing money would help me to raise my children.
I built my business from scratch and it grew to approximately $200 million in assets under management and 1,200 clients. In 2007, I sold my practice. I am now a national speaker to help individuals live a successful life and realize their dreams. I am also now one of the few Certified Divorce Financial Analysts in the state and I help others through the same process that I went through.
I have come to realize that you can do pretty much anything you want in life, you just have to want it badly enough. My mantra is: I can’t think of anything that could possibly happen to me that I couldn’t handle. This has really put life into perspective for me and has helped me to ‘not sweat the small stuff.’