By Jennifer Urezzio
Why We Need Support!
It’s a strange conflict I witness in powerful women – the desire for support vs. the belief that I should be able to do it all. When you have something conflicting with what you truly desire, it creates a wall or a block in bringing that desire into your life.
I am a firm believer that we have all of the information inside of us to create the life we deserve and desire. No one person can do it all, that is why I seek support by creating communities, building families and attracting mates. And, sometimes, on the road of self-discovery, it is important to seek out the advice of a person that has already traveled that road.
In order to create support systems, it is required that you be open to receiving this support and release the “I can do it all” mind-set. Below are some tools that can help you shift the beliefs that are conflicting with your desire for support.
· Notice – Just for the first day, notice where you are applying the “I can do it all” mind-set. There is no action necessary at this point, just notice. Remember that this is a witness process, not an opportunity for you to judge yourself or criticize yourself.
· Pause – On the second day after you notice yourself going into the “I can do it all” mind-set, PAUSE. The pause is your chance to close your eyes and take a deep breath. There's nothing more to do on this day, just keeping pausing and breathing.
· Ask – On the third day after noticing, pausing and breathing, open your eyes and ask yourself this question in a quiet location: “What do I want to say or do differently here?”
· Conduct – On the fourth day after noticing, pausing and asking, now you get to do something differently. Take the chance and open yourself up to receiving that support you are asking for. Also, here’s your opportunity to start asking for support from new and different resources. Have you been asking for support from individuals that are unable to provide that support? The “doing something differently” action can be as simple as asking someone new to be supportive.
Remember, this isn’t an intellectual process – it’s a soulful one.
By understanding yourself better and how you relate to the world around you, you will be able to increase your effectiveness in your business, in your purpose, and in your personal life by tapping into your true self. By allowing yourself to receive the support that you desire, you will become a more effective leader and you’ll foster more profound relationships.